Warning: This post contains half-developed, thrown together in the moment, blink-worthy thoughts. Aka, it’s all over the place.
“Oh, I’m sorry. I forgot I only exist when you need something.”– A Depressing T-Shirt
I was scrolling Pinterest the other day and came across this quote.
(I hear it in a sarcastic teen girl voice, and I still can’t place it. . .even after days of trying to figure it out. . .)
Needless to say, I saved it and thought about it way too much for the next 48 hours. Accurate? Maybe. Helpful? Pfft, no.
Whoever comes up with these uplifting little jewels needs a bar of chocolate and a empathetic pat on the back. Because that be roughhhh.
After my little pity-party session, I stepped back and thought a bit more objectively (yes, believe it or not, I can attempt such a feat). Sure, I might feel this quote sometimes, but if others find it so relatable. . .does that mean others think about this a lot? More importantly-
Do they think about it when they think of me?
I think we (homo sapiens) tend to do this thing called “taking for granted”. Essentially, it just means that we brush some things off and decide they’re *safe*. We don’t feel obligated to do as much with those things because they’re in a nice little box.
I’ll be the first to say that I take my family for granted a lot. Especially over the past year and a half of my life.
What does this mean? Well, I basically didn’t go out of my way to spend time with them. I focused on my friends and me. I wanted to do what I wanted to do.
This isn’t to say I became a completely self-centred child (though honestly, I’m way too self-centred), it just means that I directed my time, attention, and energy elsewhere.
I worked hard for the friendships I have. I have some of the most amazing people who I call friends, and I have no clue how we’re friends. They’re under no obligation to stick around, yet they do, and I’m eternally grateful to them.
That being said- I had to work for those friendships. Family you’re born into; friendships you plant, nurture, grow, and water. So technically speaking, they’re more work.
I think we take family for granted.
They’re the ones telling us to do our chores, whining when we don’t go play with them, bugging us for the umpteenth time to ask us where on earth the shopping list went. They’re the ones we see the most, which means we see them at their highs and at their lows.
They’re the ones who stick by us through thick and thing. They’re the ones who will defend us and protect us against any haters. They’re the ones who provide food and shelter-
And do we thank them?
Pfft. We complain if we have to take out the trash.
Same with our close friends. Once you’ve made a close connection, it can be tempting to put it on the backburner as a *safe* friendship that you can always fall back on if your new more exciting ones fail.
I’ll also be the first to admit I’ve done that a couple times. Not proud of it.
So next time you see or think about this quote and start to break out the black balloons and dark fuzzy blankets for a pity party, think about people who might think this about you.
This isn’t a post to point fingers (goodness knows I’m the last person on Earth who could do that in good conscious), it’s just a friendly little perspective check.
I know I need it a lot.
Now go find someone you take for granted and give them a big hug *winks* (or if they’re like me and twitch at the thought of a hug, make them a cup of their favourite drink).