[Key Word: LOVE]
*glances at time stamp*
*glances at the time stamp of part 1* (which you can read here, by the way: https://adawne.home.blog/2020/04/29/non-fiction-loving-from-home/)
*glances at blog*
Well someone is fashionably late. *apologises*
Two (I apologise) weeks ago, I did a post on the love languages, but all you who study love languages probably realised I missed a solid two languages. Don’t worry! I didn’t forget you.
Here’s a fairly simple love language. . .unless you’re broke, right? Wrong.
Gifts don’t have to be expensive- They don’t even have to be bought! Consider pulling out your first grade crafting skills (preferably coupled with current day experience and knowledge. . .) and putting together a well thought out something for your friend?
A good friend of mine who lives states away from me, has recently begun a new hobby: Spamming my mailbox.
Yes, I’m talking about a physical mail box with physical letters (letters are pieces of paper with words on them that people put in these things called envelops, address, and stamp to send via. . .whatever mail gets sent via). But not just any letters, let me tell you.
So far, she’s sent me:
- Handwritten poems she copied from her favourite poets
- Encouraging notes that threaten to bring tears to my eyes because of their sweetness
- Stuff to make a bracelet out of (you’d be surprised how much fits in an envelop)
- And several other things that shall remain known only to us.
It’s really been quite touching, and I’ve grown to look forward to receiving them. I’ve always been a big fan of letters and packages- and Gifts isn’t even my love language! Imagine how much you’ll be blessing your friend by sending a quick letter and bookmark!
It’s not that hard. It might take time, yes, but you’re stuck at home!
You have no excuse, my friend 😉
5. Quality Time
I see you trying to run away, introverts! Just hold your horses and at least let me get through to the end, ‘ey?
Some people may think that since quality time involves spending time (surprise) with people, it’s only a love language for introverts. You’d be surprised though.
I have several introverted friends (friends? yes I have those, they’re amazing) who’s love language is Time. Most of them are long distance, so I’ve had fun experimenting in “how can I make you feel loved (in a totally not creepy way) when I can’t run over to your house and sit on your couch for three hours?”
You’d be surprised at how easy it is. All it requires of you is a smidgen of time out of your already chill day, and a good attitude (no one likes to talk to someone who just wants to rant about how bored they are, ‘ey?).
Just calling someone could make their day. Do you realise how little we do this? Texting has become much more prevalent, but it doesn’t diminish the power of picking up a phone and calling.
Not only that, but we now have the ability to videocall, which is only one step away from being with the other person physically.
Since 80% of communication is nonverbal, I highly suggest you try out videocalling if you’re not already addicted. Though skeptical at first, I now have VC-ing ranked as one of my favourite things to do.
If you’re still a wary introvert, or an anti-social extrovert, consider throwing your own wants and desires aside for the sake of your friend. I assure you it’s not as bad as your imagination leads you to believe, and even I, who gets calls anxiety and literally starts shaking before every call, have come to thoroughly enjoy it.
Okay, I know we’ve all (probably) done those three point essays that require the proper conclusion and amplification at the end. We probably have also at one point in our life darkly glared at said system and declared we would never do it again after that paper- But let’s be real. We still have to use it.
*cue collective groaning*
However, instead of giving you an amplification/application of this post (ignore that the entire post is me telling you how to love your friend. . .) how about you tell me how you use this knowledge?
Oh, and while you’re at it, if you’d care to spend an extra 5 seconds typing up a comment, you could give me a prompt for next week 😉 No promising that I’ll use it, but if you have a prompt or idea (either fiction or nonfiction- Maybe even poetry), I might take it and run.
There. That’s conclusion enough.
13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.1 Corinthians 1:4-7 [ESV]